Free association
The therapist invites you to say whatever comes to mind, including thoughts that seem irrelevant, embarrassing or trivial. What matters is not only what you say but where you stop or change the subject: that is often where a defence appears, which makes it the first step in noticing defences.[6,15]
Hear it in a session
- Therapist
As before, today you can say whatever comes to mind, even if it seems irrelevant, scattered or a bit embarrassing.
- Client
- Therapist
I noticed that when you got to Saturday's dinner, you paused, then moved quickly to the weather.
- Client
- Therapist
Maybe so. I'm just curious: what came up inside when you mentioned the dinner?
- Client
- Therapist
How do you feel as you say that?
- Client
- Therapist
There's no hurry. "Not wanting to say more" is worth noticing too. Shall we keep it in mind and come back to it when you're ready?
- Client
Notice: The therapist sets the invitation, then says little, gently pointing out only the pause and the change of subject, with curiosity rather than correction. The client says a little, then doesn't want to go on; the therapist doesn't press, and notes the "not wanting to" itself as something to come back to.















